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28 is the number this year I know I've been through a lot of things during the period I've had ups and downs I've had laughs and tears I've been drunk and sober I've eaten dust and drank tap water I've fought my way through a lot of obstacles I've seen my closest people passed away I've gotten married to the best person in my life. I've had two wonderful children. I've had so many other experiences that I can't share here. Moreover... I'm thankful for all the experiences, good or bad.  I'm thankful for all the people supporting me all this time and I'm thankful to God for letting me live this wonderful and colorful life and here's to the best 28 years of my life... Happy birthday me -E- follow @femmerling on twitter

Making Everyday a Valentine's Day

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Happy Valentine's Day People! It's February 14 and everyone's busy buying chocolates and gifts for their loved ones. I'm not one of them though. Simply because I celebrate Valentine's day everyday. How is that possible? Valentine's day is known as the Love day. The day where you show your loved ones that you love them. To me that should be everyday because I love my wife every single day and I want to show her every day that I love her. I love her from the moment she wakes up in the morning, the way she smiles through her day up until the moment she smiles while she's dreaming at night. She's special and perfect every single day. And for that, I want to show her how much I love her everyday. I believe that this actually applies to a lot of you out there. Perhaps you never really realize it until you read this post. You can do it as well. Simply by trying to make everyday special for the two of you. As if it's your last day together. ...

Making Self Reflection a Habit

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As humans we face problems day in and day out. This is perfectly normal. However, we often forget that our problems are actually our life lessons. We tend to ignore or run away from our problems instead of dealing with it. Again, this is a natural defensive reaction. Sure, we can blame so many factors when problems occur. Our friends, our surroundings, our work partners, or anything blamable. One thing that you always have to remember is actually look back to yourself. Why? Simply because we can be the one causing the problems as well. It's just that because we have our own ego, we think that we are never wrong. Self reflection is something that you should make a habit. I do it on a daily basis every night before I take a ride to Slumberville. I always try to reflect everything I do from the moment I woke up till my reflection time. Why at night? Simple, you are mostly done dealing with the problems and you are more objective. This way you can judge problems better. I usuall...

2012: Nawaran time!

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We've just went past 2011. A lot of things happened in 2011 and I found those things enriching me in many ways. I always try looking at things from a positive point of view because it helps me in analyzing what I need to always become better. As always, I have my new year resolutions for each year and in 2011 I failed in fulfilling some, which are: to buy a car to be more discipline at the 5-time prayer For sure these two will be on my resolution list this year. My other resolutions are as follows: I'll be launching a startup on my son's birthday tonight at 7 PM Jakarta time. The startup is something I've been working on for about a quarter in 2011. This startup is derived from various concepts in my bachelor and master degree thesis. To add a twist, I insert Indonesian cultural elements inside it. I'm sure that the socio-cultural e-commerce platform of Nawaran can really develop and become something in the Indonesian internet commerce market. My new year r...

Life 2.0: A Web Developer's View

Life is actually a very big computer. It works in a coordinated way and it has clear algorithms for every process. Every day is a new program. You start in the morning by planning your day and create a flowchart. Sometimes your planning is kept in a stored procedure, just so it will repeat itself. Then you develop your day with your codes. Life will react to your codes. Your codes are your interactions with people and how you control yourself in doing things. If you use the right codes, things will go smoothly as planned. Sometimes you'll get warnings and sometimes you'll get error messages. When that happens, it's time for you to look back at your codes and debug. This is necessary to ensure smoothness in life processes. People tend to think that we, computer nerds, only see things from a strange point of view. But, when you view it this way, our view is very much human. So living life is actually like a system development life cycle. You plan, design, write co...

Hitting the Refresh Button

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Creativity is what drives my life. It is the reason why I took computer science as my major. IT is the reason why I can spend sleepless nights doing my codes and also the reason why I haven't blogged in a long while. I like creating things and IT developers are artists and creators in their own ways. About 2 months ago I met with several people offering investments. They want to establish an IT business venture. I was excited, but then somehow, in the middle of the road, things get bumpy and we cancelled the cooperations. I was disappointed because I knew the ideas we were about to build would require massive capitals in order for it to succeed. Then I spent nights after nights thinking on what to do next. I entered the period I call frozen mind. A state of mind where you feel that you're no longer creative. A state of mind that causes someone like me feeling powerless. I feel that I cannot develop anymore when actually I could. In the middle of it all, I tried to warm thi...

Take A Break From Your Digital Life

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For the past 9 years I've been really tied to technology. Not a day goes by without excessive use of it. Ever since university I'm used to using computers for more than 8 hours daily, mostly coding with about an hour or two of movies, games, etc. On one side, it's good cuz during my university years I need to really develop my skills. But then as time goes by I get too attached to it. This is not good. Back then I used a desktop so the only thing I'm really attached to is my cellphone, still am now. Since 2003, my phone has internet connection and I can get connected anywhere. Thus, my life circles around the net. Then starting 2008 I got my first laptop. This thing really went to places with me, even on my vacation. Sad, I know, but there's nothing I can do about it. I'm simply too attached to digital stuffs. Last weekend, for the first time in my life I had a digital break. I was inspired by a blog post by Leo Babauta, a minimalist. It was nice and I enj...